The Oscars - Post Mortem

So other year of Oscar has come and gone.  And MAN was I off the marks in my Oscar picks, what the hey???????  Random thoughts:

·        No Meryl, it was more like 80% of Americans groaning at your win.  I mean your film only grossed 25 million for crying out loud.  Probably while even though you did a spot on representation of the Prime Minister, nobody gives a shit about her life.  Not on this side of the pond anyway.

·        Was glad to see Billy Crystal doing his thing, and he didn’t embarrass himself or anything, though many of his jokes fell flat, but you can’t blame him, ya gotta blame the writers.

·        No matter how many awards it won, I STILL don’t think I could bring myself to watching “The Artist” not in the theatres anyway.  I mean a big part of my “good movie caliber” requires memorable dialogue and in this film there’s almost none at all.  The last movie that won for Best Picture with memorable dialogue was probably “No Country For Old Men” or perhaps “The Departed.”

·        What the heck is it with Angelina and that red lipstick she’s always wearing?  It overwhelmes those fishlips of hers and NOT in a good way.  She was probably the only woman there wearing a dress that DELIBERATELY made her look heavier.  Can you say trying too hard?

·        And in the memoriam they always do, there were a lot of “Hollywood people” who passed but few were actually actors.  Mostly writers and producers which explains why so many shitty movies are coming out these days.  (i.e. The 3 Stooges Movie?)   Hmmpf, I wonder what’s Broadway’s excuse?

·        All in all the Oscars did convince me to see two movies that I’ve not yet seen which are:  “Beginners”  and “My Week with Marilyn”.

Oscar Prediction 2012

Okay so I haven't seen all these films, but I can take a stab at tonight's winners and that's what I'm gonna do, so here goes:

AND THE OSCAR GOES TO:

BEST PICTURE -  The Help

BEST ACTOR - George Clooney

BEST SUPPORTING ACTOR - Kenneth Branagh

BEST ACTRESS - Viola Davis

BEST SUPPORTING ACTRESS - Berenice Bejo

BEST DIRECTOR - Martin Scorsese

I'm not particularly interested in any other nomincations really. Anything else is frosting on the cake anyway.  Well not really frosting per se really more like that paper doiley under the cake that everyone expects to be there but no really notices.

The Tree of Life - a DVD review (aka oscar homework)

So in my pallid attempt to finish my Oscar homework I began to watch another of the Best Picture nominated films, The Tree of Life.  I couldn't sit through this entire move.

This is a film staring Brad Pitt and Sean Penn directed and written by Terrence Mallick (also known for The Thin Red Line).  This is a film about a man named Jack (Sean Penn) and his journey to understand the true nature of the world.  Yeah.........whatever THAT means.

I truly intended to watch this whole film.  I did, but by the time Sean Penn enters the film for the next 20 minutes that followed, the director constantly had 8-10 second clips of mish mosh of memories, nature scenes, that HAD I not read the synopisis via Netflix, I'd have had no clue what was taking place.  And honestly I still didn't.  Its as if this film was directed for an audience entirely population with people who have A.D.D.

Silly me, I looked for content, perhaps dialogue that was noteworthy.  Alas I still have NO CLUE why this film made it into the running.  Even though I do so adore Sean Penn, who has come a long way, since bashing papparazzi days of the 80's. 

Only watch at gunpoint is my recommendation.

“Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

“Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.”  Psalm 37:4

I took that scripture to mean, keep your thoughts, your actions your intentions set on God and he will take care of everything else you need.

I never thought of myself as needing a man.  Well full-time anyway, lol.  Over the years I’d come to accept myself as single, going out with men now and again.  I’d abandoned the idea of being in a relationship because (A) I didn’t think I’d be happy in one (B) Because I didn’t think I would “succeed” in one and (C) because I thought there was no such thing as a good man.

Remaining alone seemed like a good idea.  In sobriety I kept my expectations of everything LOW.  That’s my EXPECTATIONS not my standards, though I often do wrestle with the difference from time to time.

I eventually made a list of qualities I wanted in a man.  It went something like this: 

* He had to be divorced and already had his kids (and not want any more). 

* His kids should already be grown up (and him BE a grown up…aka not a man-child). 

* He had to be intelligent and able to engage in good conversation (communication).  He had to NOT be a couch potato. 

* He had to be willing to participate in some of my favorite activities (common interests). 

* He had to have a good sense of humor. 

* He had to be willing to see my perspective even if he didn’t necessarily AGREE with it (I didn’t want a clone of myself). 

* He should be trustworthy and faithful. And he should have a healthy attitude (and be able to communicate that) regarding sex.

That list was stuck on my bulletin board for a long time. (In the program we call this having a sexual ideal).  I made it for several reasons one of them being a quote from Chuck Palahniuk which said, “When you don’t know what you want; you end up with a lot you don’t.” 

I figured the worst thing that could happen was I didn’t meet anyone and I’d be alone anyway.  Jude shrugs.  I was becoming okay with that.  And then Mike asked me out and that changed everything.

I think I’ve grown more in the last 8 months than I had in the 3 years prior.  Its easy to be at peace when you live alone and are okay with living alone.  Interacting with someone on a regular basis, especially in a romantic situation, is quite different.  It forced me to consider someone else besides myself.  It forced me to trust again, to feel again, and ultimately to love again.  Something I never (truly) thought would ever happen.

My man was so patient with me at every turn.  And still continues to be.  Most days I am awed.  Some days its because I still struggle with low self esteem and aren’t sure I deserve him, but most of the time I’m awed because I had no clue that God had this in store for me.  I thought my selfish past ways had blown any chance for anything new and meaningful.  And I thought there WAS no such thing as a good man left on the planet.

What I forgot was: just as I’ve been yielding to God and changing my ways thru HIM, so are others.  Humble men and women who are letting God lead them, protect them and guide them.  And in so doing they are becoming more perfect in HIM. 

I believe God led me to this man and DID SO at a time when I could truly appreciate him.  I truly believe it was God’s timing.  And HIS timing is always perfect.  I am grateful to be with a man who not only believes in God but truly follows him. 

In my heart I now know I could never have been with a man who wasn’t God centered. 

And this weekend my man is on a spiritual retreat and I am missing him but admiring his action of spiritual self-care.

MONEYBALL - OSCAR HOMEWORK CONT'D

So continuing my Oscar homework, I finally got to see “Moneyball”.  The Oscar nominated Best Picture starring Brad Pitt and Jonah Hill as General Manager(s) of the Oakland A’s.  A story of a General Manager and a Yale Economics Major who take a decidedly different tact at how a winning baseball team is selected and structured.

It was weird seeing Brad Pitt looking more like a middle-aged Robert Redford in this picture.  I gave it 3 stars and I do NOT watch baseball (at all) and if it hadn’t been for the self-designated “assignment” I’ve given myself I probably would have missed this little gem of a film.

Forgive my horrific run-on sentence. 

So last night which was Valentine’s Day my man took me to Jimmy Hayes in Island Park, NY. http://jimmyhayssteakhouse.com/home.htm

Now I went with high expectations of this restaurant.  I had been told it was high end good food and of course primo steak. 

The atmosphere was like a dark bar, heavy wood paneling with soft lighting.  Not bad.  It seemed a good way to blind you from the poor eating experience you were about to have.

The service was outstanding I must say.  It being a “holiday” and all I didn’t expect too much although THE WAIT to get the food was considerable.

The food was awful except the soup.  I’d ordered lobster bisque with shrimp.  It was thick and flavorful and had small bites of shrimp.  The porterhouse for two was ordered cooked MEDIUM.  It wasn’t.  It was practically raw.  Now I do enjoy my meat medium rare, but err on the side of caution by asking for it medium. It was even ridiculous that when the waitress brought the she was already APOLOGIZING as she was giving us the meat.  You don’t DO THAT with a piece of meat at that price!  (see website for menu).  I wasn’t especially wowed by the texture or the flavor of the meat.  I found myself reaching for salt. Also the creamed spinach was a disaster.  It didn’t taste like spinach at all, it was flavored with something that tasted like potpourri.

The table seating was practically on top of one another. (I guess they thought WE were cattle and hemmed us in as such.)  Unless you managed to get a booth.  We were people watching and both noticed the same thing.  Apparently any ol’ thing was appropriate for dining out.  One couple next to us the guy was wearing a button down shirt and was untucked wrinkled, and his wife was no better looking as if she had just rolled out of bed.

The verdict: I DO NOT recommend this restaurant.  It was a severe disappointment.  Thankfully my dining partner was a pleasure who was the saving grace of this experience.

Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close - a movie review

So doing my “Oscar homework” I went yesterday to see Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close.   Another one of the Oscar nominationed selections for Best Picture.

I was reluctant to go because although it’s headed by two big stars: Hanks & Bullock.  I KNEW in my gut that the meat and potatoes of this film, included neither performer.  My gut was right. 

This is the story of an Extremely Loud and Incredibly Annoying boy, who loses his quasi-genius father and then tries to make sense of it all by uncovering clues surrounding a mysteriously discovered key.

I reluctantly enjoyed this film.  Why?  Because it had heart.  Because for every person who has ever suffered a tragedy that changed their lives forever, we want to believe we suffered through it for some purpose.